Who Pays for What?

It can become confusing when deciphering who pays for what when it comes to your wedding. Times have changed, and there are really no set rules anymore concerning who pays for what. However, a traditional guideline can be helpful when addressing who will be paying for what. Keep in mind that this is just a guideline, and a traditional one at that, but when it comes to your wedding, you can have whoever pay for whatever they want!

THE BRIDE TRADITIONALLY PAYS FOR:
-Groom’s ring

-Gifts for your bridesmaids

-A wedding gift for your groom
-A gift for your parents 
-Your own hair & make-up for the wedding

 

WHAT THE BRIDE’S FAMILY TRADITIONALLY PAYS FOR:
-Save the Dates, Invitations, Programs, Menus, and other paper goods

-Wedding gown & bridal accessories

-Feeding you and your bridesmaids on the wedding day
-Bridesmaid’s bouquets



-All fees associated with the ceremony site rental and decor AND the reception site rental and décor
-Florals used for decor
-Food for the reception
-All Wedding Vendors (photographer, cinematographer, planner, band or DJ, etc.)
-Wedding cake
-Favors
-Transportation for the you, your wedding party and your family to the wedding
-Gratuities for any vendors
-Post-wedding brunch, if you have one

(In a nutshell, the bride’s family TRADITIONALLY pays for almost everything. Remember, this varies greatly now-a-days!)

WHAT THE GROOM TRADITIONALLY PAYS FOR:
-Engagement and wedding ring for the bride

-Bridal bouquet
-A wedding gift for the bride
-Gifts for the groomsmen
-Boutonnieres for all men in the wedding party or families
-A gift for his parents

-Cost of the marriage license
-Officiant’s fees

-His attire & accessories
-Ties & accessories for men in the party
-Honeymoon

-Transportation for bride & groom at the end of the night

-Accommodations for the wedding night

 

WHAT THE GROOM’S FAMILY TRADITIONALLY PAYS FOR:
-Rehearsal dinner
-Their own wedding attire
-Their own travel expenses & accommodations
-Transportation for groom & groomsmen to the ceremony
-Bar & Beverages at reception

WHAT THE WEDDING PARTY TRADITIONALLY PAYS FOR:
-Bachelor & bachelorette parties
-Bridal shower (if they are hosting)

-A wedding gift for the couple

-Their own travel expenses
-Attire (dress, shoes, jewelry, suit or tuxedo purchase or rental, and accessories)
-Flower girls & ring bearers: their parents pay for their own attire
-Make-up and hair on wedding day if they have it done for them, unless the bride pays as their gift

If the bride requires her bridesmaids to wear matching jewelry or shoes, or requires the bridal party to have their hair and/or makeup done, she should traditionally cover the costs.

 

So, there you have it! The traditional guideline for who pays for what. Again, this varies with every wedding. Every bride, groom, and wedding party has a different financial situation and budget, and every family has traditions of their own. If you want to pay for your own wedding gown, go for it! If the groom decides he wants to pay for all his groomsmen’s tuxedo rentals, then more power to him! However, if you need a place to start when figuring out who will be covering what- this list is a good place to start!

What do you think? Do you agree with this traditional view of who pays for what? Or do you think these guidelines should be completely thrown out? How did you and your fiancé do things?